ANGER MANAGEMENT

ANGER & AGGRESSION: RUINS LIFE & RELATIONSHIP




Anger is a natural feeling & process that allows human beings to evolve & adapt. Its expression varies from Verbal violence (sarcastic comments, calling names, spreading rumours) to Physical abuses (bullying & torture), throwing & breaking things, giving dirty looks to others and even Silent treatments.






ANGER is an emotion. But AGGRESSION is acting inappropriately without grip over emotions. The chemistry behind anger is the mixture of emotional and physical change, whereas the physics of Anger is the change of Energy level, which will be manifested either on others, objects or one-self . Suppression of anger leads to mounting up of frustration which can lead to over-reaction to other normal situation in later stages.






POTENTIAL CONSEQUENCES OF ANGER & AGGRESSION:
Physical harm to Self / Others
Losing Friends & Family
Destruction of Property
Lose of Job & Social privilege
Gaining a Bad Reputation
Losing of Peace & Happiness



TAME YOUR ANGER BEFORE IT TEARS YOUR LIFE:


Confront the Problem & Person, show mutual respect & Understand each other’s views about the situation; Define and explain the problem in decent & rational ways; Search for realistic solutions by making acknowledgements & compromises; Agree on the solution which reduce the tension and provides more emotional security; Appreciate & Implement the solution; this will be the best way of maintaining relationship without further issues; finally, Reviewing the situation time after time helps in understanding the need of change, if any.


(Adaptation of CUDSAIR structure of Anger Management put forth by Professor Richard Nelson-Jones’)


ANGER SYMPTOMS:

Stomach gets upset & palms sweaty
Faster heartbeat & Clenching fists
Feeling of getting flushed
Pressure on temples & clenched jaw

MANAGEMENT TACTICS:

Know what pushes your buttons
Know your body’s anger signs.
Stop and think before you speak.
Cage your rage…it’s your choice.
Decide what to do wisely.

NEXT TIME WHEN ANGER STRIKES..THINK TWICE........




Behave Matured and Just Agree that you Disagree. If nothing works, dig out your own ways to come out of argumentative situations so that you don’t hurt yourself and others, beyond forgivable limits; after all LIFE IS SHORT & anger doesn’t make relationships, it only breaks relationships. Once, Problems Are Resolved, FORGIVE AND FORGET, or at least do ONE of the two!!